November 5th 2018
The Guest House. Who am I?
Today, I share with you a tool I improvised with a 24-year-old patient. She lives in Berlin. She told me today that she felt uneasy because she wanted to start two work projects within her professional field: investigative journalism. She told me that she was scared to take that leap of faith.
When I asked her about this fear she was feeling, she told me she felt fragile. It was at that moment I thought I could tell her about Rumi’s poem, written by Rumi, the great mystic Sufi from the 13th century. Here it is:
THE GUEST HOUSE
The human being is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Mevlana Rumi
I asked her to close her eyes and imagine her heart as if it were a guest house and a being called “fragility” would arrive to it. I asked her to observe carefully this being, what it looked like, its behavior….
She described it “as a string of white smoke that moved through her chest.”
She told me that she felt fine around it, comfortable; I encouraged her to listen to it, continuing with the visualization:
– “What does it want to tell you, Sofia?”
– “It’s giving me strength.”
– “Great!,” I exclaimed. “This is a good message for you, Sofia. Fragility has connected you with your strength. Just as the poem, we have to welcome to our house those emotions and thoughts, to observe, care, and treat them with an open attitude because they bring a
message. It’s also important that this observation and attention remains with no identity: While this emotions and thoughts are within you, they are not you, even if they live in you temporarily.”
