November 28th, 2018
ARE THERE LIMITS TO ERRORS?
You are 18 years-old, and you live with your parents in the country you were born in, in the language you grew up with, and with the cultural codes you were raised with. Your parents have laid out some norms in the house: You have to keep your room tidied, help with the housework, be doing something either working or studying, you can’t bring friends over if they’re not there or smoke in your room and a lot less joints, you can’t get home drunk. If you break these rules regularly, you’ll face consequences.
You are 18 years-old, and you live in a foster home away from your parents, in a language you’ve learned in the past 12 months, and with different cultural codes to the ones you grew up with. Your tutors have laid out some norms in the house: You have to keep your room tidied, help with the housework, be doing something either working or studying, you can’t bring friends over if they’re not there or smoke in your room and a lot less joints, you can’t get home drunk. If you break these norms regularly, you face consequences.
Most likely, in the first case the consequences will be taking away your phone, no pocket money or a more serious action, but that won’t imply separation, and it will always bring new opportunities.
In the second case, the consequences are already set, and if the norms are broken, the consequences are living in the streets, with no money or survival means.
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Limits exist for everybody, the opportunities are the ones that often make the difference.