May 15th, 2019
As professionals, we should be careful with what we promise or say to students, and see if we can really fulfill them or not because that could be disappointing; even though we don’t see it or they don’t show it, the trust bond with that student can become weak. That’s why, if we don’t know something or how something is going to turn out, it’s better to explain to them that we don’t have it clear or that they can ask a reference.
(…) What works best for me is that they (the students) can see me as a person with feelings and pain. Obviously with my limits, because I’m still their teacher and I’m responsible for them, but I think
that we can explain things to them without “playing dumb” or as if they can’t understand. I think they value that this closeness is more transparent, and that after it’s easier for me to set the limits or consequences, so that this bond is not “being pals”, but rather of the trust this person has for you, who’s trying to be understanding, putting a distance to not be their friend, but an adult that is there for them.
Sometimes, there are teachers that think that students are trophies, who is more obedient or who is less problematic. For me it’s better to have this closeness in small groups or individually, to show interest in their wellbeing and giving them a space in a more understanding way, without judging how they feel or what they do. Rules without an
argument or understanding of why they are necessary rarely work on students. It’s not about explaining everything, but the authority or leadership role we have for them should be inspiring, not authoritative or disciplinary, and the work should be for them, not for our comfort or system. Only that way things will work.
A professional should be capable of working for the group he/she has in front, creating bonds of trust and confidence, empathy and teamwork. Over time, classrooms, methodologies and teachers change the way of teaching so it’s important learning how to adapt to a more diverse context that offers opportunities so everybody can learn, bearing in mind their background. Evidently, we need a leader that carries
out all of this, but this leadership has to be “from the emotion”*.
*This concept of “being a leader from the emotion” was taken from Xesco Espar, but I relate a lot to that in the way I am, and how I think my job should be.